I used to be a fan of hers but I realized that she’s immensely ignorant. She recently said gluten-free diets are the "cool, new eating disorder" (x). Everyone was silent, and thought her statement was “quirky”. And they have the audacity to claim she’s a “body positive icon”. -G
From Jennifer’s 2014 Vanity Fair interview. The ‘hermaphrodite’ comment is 100% legitimate (I’ve outlined the part in red). I had anons coming to me about this last week, but I had not yet seen it myself. But it IS there. So for anybody saying otherwise - No. Jen really did say this. And yes, it is a problem
What they say: “I was just joking.”
What they mean: “I was completely serious, but I hate being called out, so I’d rather pretend that you’re just too sensitive.”
Sorry to hear you’re having such a hard time! Hopefully, we can find a way to make this better.
Is it possible that you’re have a reaction to the lubrication instead of the condom? Have you had previous reactions to latex, like when a doctor or dentist uses latex gloves? If not, we’re willing to bet it’s not the latex that’s bothering you.
We’ve brought this up a couple of times to folks who are consistently having reactions. It’s not unheard of. Many condoms come with water-based lubes that can be kind of body-invasive, with ingredients like glycerin, parabens, and others that can be a real irritant. Even worse, many condom companies don’t list the ingredients of their lubes on the box, so you can never tell if it’s something that’s going to irritate you!
Unfortunately, without knowing what symptoms you’re having, or which non-latex condoms you tried, we can’t tell if it is a latex or a lube reaction, so this may take some experimenting on your part. If you’re uncomfortable with that, I suggest seeing a doctor (like an allergist or an immunologist) and getting an allergy test done.
Here are some suggestions in the meantime:
- FC2 (also known as the Female Condom)— this condom is made of nitrile instead of latex, the same material that hypo-allergenic, latex-alternative gloves are made of. It also has a silicone-based lube which is very non-invasive. Silicone allergies are extremely rare, which is why silicone lubes are considered to be hypo-allergenic. If you do have a silicone allergy, it’s safe to wash the FC2 out and use an oil-based lube, like coconut oil. Oils don’t react with nitrile. This is the only non-latex condom we carry with a non-water-based lube. Followers, if you know of any others, give us a shout!
- Non-lubricated condoms— if you haven’t had an allergic reaction to latex gloves in the past and you think it’s the lube that’s giving you guff, try a non-lubricated condom and add the lube of your choice. Sadly, there are no non-lubricated, non-latex condoms on the market (I know, it’s DUMB) so you’ll have to stay away from oils (even coconut oil). Stick to something with silicone. I’m a big fan of WET Naturals Silky Supreme because the ingredients are very non-invasive. But WET Uranus Silicone is another big seller with very minimal ingredients.
- Silicone-lubricated latex condom— Caution Wear, an awesome but not very well-known brand, lubricates all their condoms in an excellent silicone-based lube. If you feel comfortable trying a latex condom with an alternative lubricant, these are the condoms for you. **NOTE** Our website mistakenly lists a couple of their condoms as having water-based lubes, but all of Caution Wear products use silicone-based lubes. That’s a typo and we’re working with IT to fix it.